Wednesday, October 24, 2012

ED phone Home - Diabetes, Depression and Sexual Health

It's time to talk about this topic. I am by no means making fun of E.D. (Erectile Dysfunction) as we all know it is prevalent with 40% of all men over 40,  or something like that.  But like the movie E.T. we all want our E.D. to phone home or connect and work again.

What about Libido and its relationship to depression or using antidepressants? These are also topics that need to be hashed out, talked about, and openly discussed.

The odds are even worse for men with Diabetes. Glucose is a huge molecule, jamming up blood flow and damaging our penile highways, effecting erectile strength, sensation, and over all drive.

As I have mentioned in past posts, E.D. doesn't get talked about enough during clinic visits. My health care providers dodge it. Asking things like; " are things working down there?" or they don't ask about E.D. at all.

I hear that if you have diabetes then you have a 50% likelihood of developing depression.  What that means to me is that there are a lot of diabetics taking SSRI's which are an  anti depressant medication that may make you feel happier but not happy "down there" as they are notorious for decreasing sensation during intercourse and  libido. Shitty deal really for the person taking them and their partner.

What are the options?.......let's see......

Adding another med. Like Wellbutrin - an antidepressant that minimizes the sexual side effects but can increase agitation and anxiety in some individuals. Not good if frustrated over the above ED and lack of libido issue.

The blue pill, well those are good for ED in some cases,  but not so good to increase ease of ejaculation, sensation due and abating the effects caused by the SSRI. 

The stress that ensues when a man in his prime can't "climax" or in some cases"can't stay hard enough" to please his partner and or himself. Yes, you got it, major feelings flood the brain, like, "I suck in the sack" or "I am useless, whats wrong with me" thus leading to performance anxiety the next time around, and if you are the avoident type a mere lack of all around initiative and libido ensues. The partner in this case is often left feeling "unattractive" because all of the sudden the man can't "climax"   This effects the sexual intimacy in the relationship in some cases. No libido, performance anxiety, less flirting, less connecting, greater distance, and then the inevitable both parties give up. Okay not in all cases but you get my point.

Once again diabetes effects all areas, Mood, Depression, libido, decreased sensation, E.D.

What do we do about it?

 Well, I am hoping my readers can contribute. I have no clue.




Jonah said...

A while back I read a piece by a guy with ED due to diabetes about getting adventurous sexually, and how his ED had led to a change for the better in his sex life because he was doing things differently. It makes sense to me.
Things you could try include:
- Your hands, your mouth, sex toys, stuffing, exploring other parts of your body, phone sex type word play, etc. You might become proud of what you can do.
- If it really matters to you, there are other drugs for maintaining an erection.
- You've gotta have a partner who understands you could be aroused in your head but not be showing it with your dick. If she doesn't get that, you're probably not gonna get very far, because she's gonna be feeling ugly too. But as long as she gets that, if the issue is partly where you've lost sensation (neuropathy?) you can play with where else you might have sensation. I read a book by a guy (John Callahan) who had a spinal cord injury and can't feel anything below about his belly button. He orgasms just on nipple stimulation now. Actually I just looked him up and he's dead. So make that all past tense.
-Don't assume that you have to ejaculate to orgasm, and don't make orgasm the goal of your sex.

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Depression plays a major role. It bogs you down and sucks away all the joy out of your life. You start feeling low and the feeling rubs off on your loved ones. As you slip deeper into depression, you lose interest in sex because by that time depression has already caused erectile dysfunction.

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To say there is a relationship between erectile dysfunction (ED, impotence) and diabetes is not something that is unsupported by research. The truth is we know that somewhere between 35% and 75% of those men who are suffering from diabetes will have to contend with ED at some point.

Some men may have to deal with the problem sooner rather than later. Some might experience severe forms of impotence and other might suffer from a limited amount of the problem. As the numbers so, some men may never have to deal with impotence at all at least as far as diabetes is a contributor to the problem.